Valentine’s Day might as well be known as the national day of love; a day to make time for the one you love, but what happens once all the fuss has died?

While we all– whether single, taken or “it’s complicated,” live vicariously through social media images and sentimental messages posted by friends and their lovers, we can only wonder how long will the love last? Not to sound like a hater, but is the excessive public display of affection even true?

As with any relationship, there is no such thing as “perfect.” I’m sure Barack and Michelle Obama, even after over 20 years of marriage, are still figuring it out. But that’s the fun part, figuring out how to make it last! Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone, so its important to understand how to maintain that fire to keep the romance and the chemistry HOT!

According to a 2011 Cosmopolitan article, which polled over 1,400 women, the main reason why women said their relationships did not work was because they just “fell out of love.”

It seems it is easy to fall out of love with someone when we don’t treat everyday as if it’s Valentine’s Day. I’m not saying go to the florist and have 12 dozen roses waiting at the top of the stairs every day, but our actions should prove consistently that we are in love. Our actions should speak louder than pre-determined words in a Hallmark card to remind our chosen partners we’re still committed.

How many times did you tell your partner, “Babe, you are looking real good!” this week? When’s the last time you were spontaneous with your partner and surprised them with dinner or a nice gift just because?

It’s not always the price tag or the bedroom action that will keep your partner happy in a relationship, but more so the day-to-day gestures that stand out and will be noticed by your lover. Here’s R&B singer Tank‘s no. 1 tip on how men can keep their lady happy.

We all live busy lives, but don’t let busy take over the love in your relationship! Don’t fall out of love, just make sure you stay in love.

What are some things you do to keep your partner engaged in the relationship? How do you keep each other happy?